by Lee Webster
I’m standing in the kitchen of our old Vermont farmhouse at the age of 14 with my mother’s eyes boring into mine as she is telling me that under no circumstances will I or any of my four siblings be taking care of her in her old age. She is insisting that, when the time comes, I will drive her to a nursing home and boot her out the door.
It is clear to me that talking with her about what she wants to have happen to her body after her death would just not be on the table, now or in the future, and I was right about that, despite recurring attempts during her favorite show, NCIS. “Gee, Mom, that looks like a nasty way to die. I wonder if he’ll be buried or cremated? Which do you think you’d prefer? What? Oh, yeah, Ducky and the autopsy first, then we never find out. OK.” More...