A Continuum of Care

Historically, care for the dead was handled by family and community, practices that are still maintained by some cultures and religious groups. Where deathcare has been outsourced to the funeral industry, the movement to relearn and reclaim these practices has described this approach as a home funeral. 

Information on these How To pages will assist families and community members in Oregon to handle some or all of these functions associated with caring for the dead, including Perform Body Care, Complete Paperwork, Arrange Disposition, Transport the Dead, Create Ceremony, Go Out Greener. If you choose to hire professionals to handle or assist with any of these functions, read Work with Professionals for tips on getting what you want and need, no more or less.

On This Page

  • ​What a home funeral is
  • Essential tasks
  • Blended funerals
  • Building your team​​

What is a Home Funeral?

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What’s referred to as a “home funeral” is:
  • a noncommercial, family-centered response to death that
  • involves the family and its social community in the care and preparation of the body for burial or cremation
  • and/or in planning and carrying out related rituals or ceremonies
  • and/or in the burial or cremation itself
  • May occur entirely within the family home or not
  • Differentiated from the institutional funeral by
  • emphasis on minimal, noninvasive care and preparation of the body
  • reliance on the family’s own social networks for assistance and support
  • relative or total absence of commercial funeral providers in its proceedings.

Excerpt from Undertaken With Love: A Home Funeral Guide for Congregations and Families by Holly Stevens and Donna Belk

4 Essential Essentials

​At each step of the process there are a range of options for family direction and community involvement, along with tasks that can be left entirely to a paid professional:

Doing it Your Way: Home Funerals on the Rise

​The home funeral movement is gaining momentum throughout the country and the world, validating the needs of families to honor their loved ones in ways that respect their desire for affordable, family-centered, and environmentally responsible after-death care. ​The high cost of conventional funerals is only one reason to consider alternatives. Studies show that families and friends, children especially, accept death more readily when they participate in the process of saying goodbye to a loved one in the home at their own pace. Family funerals require shouldering of responsibilities and grief.

Home funerals are about empowering families to care for their own dead, to take the time to be present and absorb the change, to complete a process that is intimate and meaningful without outsourcing it or parts of it unless desired, to build community around and in the wake of the death of a member. It’s about authenticity and responsibility and constitutional family rights and strengthening and defining familial and community culture. (To learn more about home funerals and connect with others around the world who advocate for home funerals, go to the National Home Funeral Alliance, the National End-of-Life Doula Alliance, the Green Burial Council, and the Funeral Consumers Alliance.)

Blended Funerals
Having a home funeral does not mean you have to do everything. Blended funerals, where a professional is hired for certain aspects such as filing paperwork or transportation, may provide the peace of mind needed while coordinating other aspects of gathering family and friends around the deceased or arranging for final disposition and memorialization.

Community Care Groups
​Community care groups are formed to assist families in conducting aspects of home funerals as needed. Some examples of community care groups are:
Threshold Care Circles — trained volunteers offering support and education to their wider community
Faith Community Care Groups — members of spiritual communities, church committees, or other faith-based groups who are prepared to aid individuals and families within their own spiritual community
Religious Burial Societies — Jewish chevra kadisha, Muslim janazah, Quaker Care Groups, and many Christian denominations prepare the bodies of members in separate sex groups within their faith communities
Hospice Care Groups — hospice personnel who form a group that volunteers to assist after a family member has been on hospice service
Independent Care Groups — groups of individuals who sometimes pledge to help each other care for each other or their loved ones’ remains.

For more information on starting a community care group, read Undertaken With Love.

Building Your Team

Doctors
If the primary care or hospice physician and staff know that the family chooses to keep their deceased home prior to disposition of the body, or that the family plans to file a paper death certificate (instead of using a funeral home to do so electronically), they may be willing to help by filling out the medical portion of the death certificate in a more timely manner.
 
Hospice
If hospice is involved, be sure to let them know well before the death occurs that you are planning to keep your loved one at home (or bring them to a home or community location from a facility) so they can help make the aftercare smooth for all. They may be unaware that there is no legal time limit in New Hampshire for how long families may keep their dead at home before final disposition.

Clergy
If the dying person is part of a spiritual community, that leader can be an invaluable contributor to the experience. You may ask him or her to attend at any point in the dying process, or to officiate in public or private ceremonies. Some may have little or no experience with families planning a more engaged role in death care with reduced or no role for a funeral home, so advance discussion is advised.
 
Other Family Members
Home death care is a group effort. By informing your family and friends about this decision, each member will have time to feel out their own comfort level and develop ways in which they feel comfortable to participate.

Funeral Directors
If you choose to have any services performed by a funeral home, you are advised to discuss their part ahead of time. You can call for prices or pick up a copy of their “General Price List,” which they must furnish on request, as required by law.  Funeral homes that are supportive of family involvement may allow families to use their facilities (for a fee) to bathe and dress the body. (See the 2020 Funeral Home Price Survey results to make an informed decision when hiring a funeral director.)
 
Town or City Clerk
It’s advisable to check in beforehand with the Town or City Clerk in the town where it is anticipated the death will occur to ensure his or her cooperation with filing the death certificate. It is every Town Clerk's job to know how to accept a paper death notice and death certificate, but many have not had the opportunity, so help them to be prepared. The New Hampshire Department of Vital Statistics (located under the Secretary of State) can advise them, or you, if needed.

(For more information, go to How to Work With Professionals.)

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